Parenting | Well-Read Reviews - Part 2

Facing another frank breech baby.

Carli, minutes after delivery 6/12/08

See how her legs are outstretched? They were used to being up near her head.

The past week for me has been a whirlwind of emotions; disappointment, excitement, anticipation all rolled into one. Last Tuesday we went to our high risk appointment and they did an ultrasound (as they do every visit) confirming that Katelyn (daughter #2) is still breech, and comfortably so. She has been breech at every visit, which is very disappointing.

On top of that, we were told that her fluid level was 6mm, which is still considered “normal” but more of a “normal-low” and borderline concerning. 5 and below is a cause for concern, while the average was closer to 10.  Having low fluids is exactly the issue I faced with Carli and why she was born at only 37 weeks, 4 days. The difference between then and now is that I was 34 weeks when I found out that I might have the possibility of delivering Katelyn early at barely 35 weeks if my fluids did not go back up. This had me seriously worried.

For a week, I drank water like nobody’s business. It’s all I drank. No juice. No tea. No soda. Not even water that had stuff in it to make it taste better. All I had was plain, filtered water. My dedication to her fluids, luckily, helped as when I went back on Monday (yesterday), her fluids went from a 6 to a whopping 12! I was very happy that she was back up there with plenty of fluid. Unfortunately, she’s still breech.

For the past month I have been doing everything in my power to encourage her to turn. I have been seeing a chiropractor certified in the Webster Method in turning breech babies. I have seen a Chinese herbalist who does moxa. I have tried the breech tilt, visualization, and cold peas on my upper belly. I am still continuing to see the chiropractor because it does help my back, which is often excruciatingly painful — but I am losing a lot of faith in getting Katelyn to turn.

I am thinking maybe I have to come to terms with the fact that maybe she CAN’T turn. Maybe there is a reason unknown in which she can’t or won’t safely turn on her own. Maybe she has a shorter cord, making turning at this point uncomfortable. Maybe I have an odd shaped pelvis. Or maybe because I have smaller sized babies (she’s measuring at 27th percentile at the moment) that she just doesn’t weigh enough for her head to weigh her down into the right position.

Honestly, I just don’t know. I’ve been recommended having an external version, in which the doctor manually turns the baby from outside the stomach but it has more risks than I feel comfortable with. Plus it has only about a 50-70% success rate, with many babies going right back into the breech position. I wanted a natural birth, but there is something unnatural about forcing a baby to turn who refuses to on her own. I think there is a difference between encouraging her to turn, and preparing your body to allow her to comfortably turn, and forcing her to. I just won’t risk doing that. I can’t.

Some have also recommended trying a breech birth since typically frank breech babies have a higher success rate of delivering safely. But for the most part, a baby in ANY sort of breech position is often sent to the hospital as a “high-risk” situation by a midwife. If a midwife won’t do it, my guess is — it’s not a great idea to begin with. So attempting a breech birth is not something I will do either.

So that leaves one option, if Katelyn should not turn on her own.. the dreaded c-section. Anyone who knows me knows how anti repeat c-section for the sake of having had one before. I think doctors invest too much time into unnecessary interventions. Unfortunately, in all my research that I have been accumulating for the past few years in attempt for a VBAC, I can’t justify attempting a VBAC with a breech and/or low fluids baby. The risks for the safety of my daughter is too great (although not huge, but more than I am comfortable with) to attempt any sort of breech delivery.

So if I have to have a c-section, she will most likely be here on July 26th (hopefully in the morning). I plan on discussing it with my doctor after my next ultrasound if Katelyn is still breech at that point. My next ultrasound is on July 12th which will put me at 37w1d. Being born on July 26th would put me at around 39 weeks, granted she doesn’t want to come earlier. (My mom claims she is coming sometime in my 38th week — but you know how people always like to place bets.)

So I am slowly coming to terms with the prospect of having another c-section, baby. I really don’t know why my babies find the frank breech position so comfortable — but at this point, I just want a healthy baby. I love Katelyn so incredibly much already .. and I think the difference between last time and this time, is that I have time to meditate on the subject, to accept that maybe not everyone comes into the world the same way.

At least, at the end of this pregnancy I can honestly say I have done everything possible to attempt a natural delivery. I have done all I can. The rest is up to Katelyn.

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I need to start packing my hospital bag.

I need to start packing my hospital bag, but I cannot (for the life of me) decide what kind of pajamas to bring. I definitely do not want to bring anything I currently have as they are over worn and in need to be thrown out. But finding women’s pajamas that are my taste & style almost seems impossible.

For months I have been looking for a place where I can buy women’s pajamas, and I believe I have finally found the place — WomensPajamas.com! (You can not forget that URL as it is incredibly easy to remember).

Looking through their site, I have found a variety of different styles, materials, and prices! They even have the cutest little baby rompers! They have organic cotton ensembles (the pink and brown pajamas set to the left) as well as cartoon based ensembles such as the Hello Kitty Club Sleepshirt (which I love!) Plus the price is great, averaging around 20-40$ for a pajama set.

If you are in the need of some really adorable undies, then Womens Pajamas also has plenty available as well! I am extremely happy to have found this website because I certainly cannot decide which ones I want to buy! It seems that there are so many options! (But which one to bring to the hospital — or two, for that matter?) :)

The great thing about this company is that there really IS something for everyone. There are some incredibly sexy nighties for a romantic night with your significant other, such as the Cosabella Soire Flower Aqua & Coral Babydoll & Thong – Women’s Pajama. This piece is a wonderful mixture of both comfort and sensuality and definitely a favorite of mine!

Women’s Pajamas has many designer pajamas to choose from, and all in one place. I definitely encourage you to spend a few minutes and check out the website if you are in the need for some comfortable, yet adorable, night wear!

Carli’s 2 Year Old Pictures

Here are a few pictures of my sweet baby girl. On June 12th, 2008 at 10:28pm – I had the tiniest baby I could ever imagine (18″ and 5lbs, 4oz). She was a little squirt (and still is). I couldn’t ask for a sweeter, more outgoing, more friendly, little girl. We were truly blessed with Miss Carli Veronica.

Her birth was rather easy (as it was via c-section) although very emotionally hard to deal with. I wanted an all natural birth (and definitely nothing along the major abdominal surgery line) but little girl was breech with low fluids. Waiting until she turned risked a major cord accident — which may have prevented me from ever kissing this beautiful face of hers.

I hated the c-section, but it was worth it to have this little girl and to be able to watch her grow into the most amazing little kid I have ever known. Although we are quickly entering into the “terrible twos” stage, it’s also the “terrific twos” as every day she is doing something that just amazes me — whether it is something she does, or says (and has never said before), or just the way she grins at me while saying, “Mommy!”

I still cannot believe she has been in my life for two years. TWO YEARS! I can remember just yesterday bringing her home from the hospital. She was so unbelievably tiny that she was in preemie clothes for a few weeks. She was then in newborn clothes for at least a month. I look back at the size of some of the outfits that once engulfed her and am just amazed that she was ever that small. She has definitely caught up!

Happy Birthday, “Nugget” (what we called her in her first year of life) and “Booboo” (what we call her now).

Summer in the Florida Sun (a 2 year old’s dream!)

For the longest time the playground intimidated my little hesitant toddler. Stairs? What are stairs? We don’t have stairs! But as you know, playgrounds are full of them! For the longest time, Carli treated the playground as if we were slowly torturing her. How DARE we push her to try new things! Gah!

Luckily, after a few times of seeing other kids her age on the playground, she suddenly realized what all this playground fuss was about and joined the kids with utter blissful 2 year old abandon!

We’re very happy that Carli has decided she likes stairs. She LIKES the playground and more often than not, I am scared out of my mind watching her, thinking she’s going to walk off an unsecured edge. She’s becoming fearless!

I think we have gone to about 3-4 different parks in the past two weeks. I am not a fan of the parks that have the equipment out on the blazing hot Florida sun without sun shade. They are kids, you know? They need some shelter from the heat while being active. Not only to help keep them cool and safe from sun stroke/heatstroke — but to help protect them SOMEWHAT from getting sunburned. (Carli wears SPF 60!)

We have also been going to a few Mommy meetups. One meetup, on Tuesday, was at this one woman’s house (in her back yard). She had a kiddy pool, sand/water table, playground, sandbox, trampoline, bounce house — as well as a lot of ride on toys. Carli was having a BLAST!

One of the Mommy’s there was straight from Italy so it was nice talking about where she came from. We had talked about my dual-citizenship and all the hoops I have to jump through to get my Italian passport (but it’ll be worth it!) (But that’s a totally different subject.)

Even though we’re in Florida and it’s so darn hot — I am taking Carli out as much as possible before her wee little newborn sister makes her appearance in less than 9 weeks.  I am not sure how much “going out” I’ll be doing for a few weeks, following. (But — who knows? Maybe I can handle two kids just fine?) I did, after all, teach 18 (5) year olds. But then again, they follow directions. This 2 year old of mine has selective hearing.

On top of taking Carli places and spending oodles of amount of quality time together, I have also been nesting like crazy. Just yesterday I threw out 10+ bags of stuff. Unfortunately I broke Carli’s wicker bassinet while so that went out to the trash this morning. Luckily we have the new Fisher-Price Newborn Rock and Sleep Bassinet (I think that is what it’s called?) It’s smaller and can travel with us! I also threw out Carli’s high-chair as the cover has been washed so many times, the entire highchair was falling apart. No way in heck it’d survive another child. We’ve decided to get another high chair that is wood based so it can be wiped down much easier. It’s a PITA when the kid eats something messy in the GRACO chairs and you have to wash the base. PITA!!

We are borrowing a swing from a friend of ours — thankfully. The last thing we need to purchase is Katelyn’s carseat and I think we’ll be ready for this baby to come! Yay!

WORDLESS WEDNESDAY: I am so in LOVE! <3

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Here are some fresh pictures of Katelyn, taken as of today. I don’t believe I can possibly be MORE in love with someone I’ve never met!



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Bab(ies) Updates: The Toddler & The Fetus

I promised my mother-in-law (through my husband) that I would update on the bab(ies). It’s probably a good idea, though, mainly because Carli is doing so many new things that it’d be nice to write them down and remember.

I haven’t even been taking a lot of belly pictures, either. Last pregnancy I took one almost every week but this time around.. the last one I took (I think) was at 17 weeks. I am almost 22, now! (I guess I should take a new one, right?

Carli

Flirt, Flirt, Flirt! She pretends to be shy when she sees both people she knows and doesn’t know. She’ll lower her head, fold her arms together and smile out of the side of her mouth. Her eyes twinkle then she looks up and gives them a subtle chuckle. If her goal is to swoon every man, woman, child, and beast.. then she succeeds.

She is obsessed (and I mean OBSESSED) with Elmo. For months she pronounced his name as “Bobo” but in the past two weeks or so it has upgraded to “Eh-mo!” When she wants to see more Elmo, she’ll sign MORE and PLEASE and then cry out “Eh-mo!”

I was handing Carli a few animal crackers yesterday, one by one. I would count, “one, two–” and then she surprised me and went “Bee!” (for “three”, I guess). It’s amazing that she caught onto that. I am thinking it’s from Dora, or Elmo. :)

Carli can handle a fork and spoon really well. Even when the fork is as large as she is. Somehow she manages to stop her food and get it in her mouth — most of the time.

“I don’t see you!” Whenever I go to discipline this kid (i.e. she’s standing up in her highchair when she shouldn’t and I tell her to sit down” she’ll cover her face as if watching a scary movie. It’s almost as if she’s saying, “I can’t see you so you don’t exist!” Meanwhile, she’ll remain standing.

Whenever someone claps — Carli will clap too. She’ll get really really excited and yell out, “YAY! YAY!” She’d make a great cheerleader.

She insists on saying “BYE” to people whenever they (1) walk past her (2) grab their purse .. or (3) are in a car. If they don’t respond, she’ll just keep yelling it (louder and louder) until someone takes notice.

She loves my parent’s dog, Guinness. We call him “Guin-Guin” but Carli has decided that she’s Parisian and calls him, “Gee! Gee!” (Like the name “Guy” in France).

She is starting to copy sounds. Though sometimes she’ll just say the last sound in a word. For example if she wants a cookie, or is talking about the Cookie Monster, she’ll just say “Kie!”

She still yells out, “Ellie!!!!!!” every time she hears a dog bark.

The Fetus, Katelyn (aka Kate or Katie)

Had doctors appointments last week with both my regular OBGYN and the High-Risk doctor. So far everything seems A-OK with her. She’s growing fast — was about 12oz at my last ultrasound on the 17th.

She had her first set of noticeable hiccups this past week that I could feel. Carli was the hiccup queen.. but I don’t think Katie will be.

She’s moving around a lot — usually when startled over a noise or after I eat something. She seems to be very active later at night when I am laying down to read a book. Hope this is not an indication of my late nights to come.

I saw a 3D picture of her face on the 17th. It freaked me out. She has no fat on her bones — no chubs– so she looked very emaciated. I am feeding her though! My appetite has been pretty strong the past few days so I am thinking she’s going through a growth spurt.

New craving: Peanut Butter Chocolate smoothies. (They are also known as Chocolate Elvis at Planet Smoothie) but I prefer the Smoothie King version. It’s creamier. I’ve had three in the past three days. Probably doesn’t help that it’s becoming pretty hot out.. but man do they taste good. (Carli likes them too — as she harasses me for sips!)

My allergies have been unbearable the past few days. I have been sneezing CONSTANTLY (a minimum of 100 times a day). My nose is rubbed raw.. My lips are severely chapped from having tissues or napkins rub against them. I am also in a constant state of drowsiness since the only thing I can take that helps is Benedryl. It REALLY helps but it makes me SOO tired. (I have been going to bed around 8-ish/9-ish every night lately!) I also feel bad whenever I take it.. feeling like I am drugging up Kate. Even though it’s a B category.. if it makes me THIS tired.. I can’t imagine what it’s doing to Kate.

I am now about 5 1/4 months pregnant. A little more than half way there. I am still remaining hopeful for my VBAC. Luckily my doctor hasn’t mentioned anything about scheduling a c-section (yet). But I know he’ll mention it in time. (Probably when I am closer to 30 weeks — which isn’t that far away!)

Wordless Wednesday: Sleepy Sack #Meme

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I am knitting this for the baby on the way. It is a sleep sack made of 100% wool yarn which goes over a cloth diaper. Not perfect, but – I am pretty new at this.

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You know you’re pregnant when..#Knitting

You have the insatiable hunger to “make” things. How old fashioned am I? I decided that after years of playing around with knitting – I am going to learn to do it and do it well. (Never too old to learn).

So I started sewing up this here soaker. Actually – I started making it for Kate but was having issues knitting in the round. The cord was just too long to stretch the stitches around. (Damn 29″ needles. Next time – I find 16″!) So I started making it for Carli instead. Size 29″ needles just barely work to fit a large. I think they are more appropriate for blankets.

To the left you’ll see my 5th attempt at knitting in the round (and a really bad job of Knit2Purl2). But I am happy that years later I finally figured out how to switch from knit to purl. (Thank you, YOU TUBE!)

My biggest issue is that I have to concentrate very hard on it – but can’t with a toddler and a husband who (dare I say it – likes being with me and talking to me) so I manage to lose track of what stitch I am on, frequently. So my stitches are uneven or.. somehow I’ve managed to create 3 holes in my piece so far.

Even though it’s not ideally pretty – I am determined to finish the project for experience alone. Plus it’ll still be fine for Carli to wear around the house over her cloth diaper. (Maybe).

The spawn at 17 weeks, 1 day.

I also joined Ravelry (username MomtoCarli if anyone wants to ‘befriend’ my sorry excuse for a knitting-self). Actually – I would like to meet more knitters and pick your minds a little.

Yesterday Forrest took me to Wal-Mart (ugh- I hate that store.. but it was closer than JoAnns) and I got a set of crochet needles. I have been ATTEMPTING to knit a granny square but you know – it doesn’t look like it does on the youtube video. So I have no idea if I am even doing it right. I think I will have to join some knitting/crochet groups.. or get some lessons. (I want to crochet!!! urrrgghhh!) But it’s hard, for some reason. I can’t get the tension right and it’s awkward!

On another note….

To the left is a picture of me a few days ago at 17 weeks, 1 day. I can’t believe how close I am to the half-way point. I went in for my doctor’s appointment on Tuesday and it took him a minute or two to get a reading on her heart because all you could hear was the “swoosh swoosh” of her moving around like she was dancing in my uterus.

He asked if I was feeling her “a lot” and when I said, “Well- occasionally but not usually.” He was like, “Really??! She is EXTREMELY active.. be prepared.” (Oh great!) Carli was little miss laid back and never had a single comment about her being overly active.. so I can only imagine just how much this 2nd kid of mine is going to redecorate my insides.

I also have quite a few friends (in real life) that are pregnant now and that makes me super duper excited! I love sharing this with people I know – and knowing that I am not going through this alone.

We’re having a little…

// GIRL!

Those who are on my facebook are already well-aware of the fact (as well as the pregnancy message boards I frequent). But for my blog readers who DON’T know.. there you have it.

In late July 2010 we shall be expecting little Katelyn Rain!

I liked this photo because you can see her cute little button nose (maybe she won’t be all nose when she is born, like her sister was – hehe). You can also see her legs pulled to her stomach and her feet in the air. The entire time we had the ultrasound, her hands were usually in front of her face as if she were sunbathing in my uterus.

SEE! Proof.. she is a little girl! :) I am so happy that my high-risk doctor knew it was a girl really early. Very few seemed to believe that he knew what he was talking about.. but I am glad that not only was I able to keep faith that what he told me was in fact true – but now I feel confidant in him as a doctor. It’s always nice to know your doctor knows what he is talking about!

We’re really really excited about having another little girl. I couldn’t ask for anything more! I have my ideal family — a husband who loves me, and two little daughters!

Showing off Bug’s Cloth Diaper Stash!

Have been working hard on pulling this stash together. I want it to be completed (XS &  Newborn all the way to Large) by the time this kiddo arrives in late July.

So far I have quite a few Cloth Couture’s, a few Dillon & Claires, and some WAHM diapers. I have more WAHM diapers coming from some lovely ladies over on the Diaper Sewing Divas board that I frequent daily.

Granted I am not officially sure what I am having (I find out officially on February 17th if Bug is allowing for this) so I am trying to make them as gender neutral as possible. (Well.. for the most part.)

To be honest, I have no idea how many diapers I have in my stash. I know I have quite a few on their way (maybe close to 10 smalls from various people) but I will make sure to count it when I get there. ;) (Finished, that is!)

Here are some pictures of the stash in the making! This first picture is of preemie diapers & newborn diapers. (a few small Trimsies that are virtually newborn size).

The second drawer is stuffed full of Cloth Couture prefolds and EZDiapers as well as some WAHM diapers i.e. the Tie Dye one!) The solid diapers in the middle are daddy-approved AIO (all-in-ones) that require no pinning or stuffing. Just put on and voila!

Here are the smalls – 1 WAHM bears flannel fattycake, some Cloth Couture Rainy Days Step 1 diapers (size NB/S), and some small Cloth Couture prefolds!

This is just the beginning, mind you as I have a bunch of smalls coming in from various friends and companies. :) Here are some of the Cloth Couture small embroidered trimsies I have and LOVE:

Kind of cute, huh? I haven’t snapped up all of them, as I am awaiting a snap order but I have snapped up a few and I can NOT wait until I have my little baby to put them in! They are also AIO (All-in-ones) so involve no difficult prep work to use them!

I am so excited to be using cloth from the start, this time around – as I did not get to start with Carli until she was about 6 months old! :( Newborn fluff is the CUTEST!

Seeing a High-Risk Fetal Doctor.. #Ultrasound #Pics

My latest OBGYN recommended to me on Monday that he would like for me to see a High-Risk specialist. Why? Well – when Carli was born she was only 5lbs, 4oz at almost 38 weeks gestation. The average weight around 37 weeks is about 6.5lbs. Obviously, Carli was not 6.5lbs. She was in fact 4lbs, 9oz when we left the hospital on Father’s Day 2008.

On top of a low birth weight, she also had low amniotic fluid and was breech. Was there an issue I had that was unknown or undetected? Had my placenta stopped working efficiently and caused growth restriction? My doctor wanted to be on the safe side and have my current pregnancy monitored to make sure this doesn’t happen again.

Even though having a little 5lb peanut was kind of cool (man she got attention!) I can understand his concern. He also wants to make sure that it doesn’t happen again, and/or sooner.  So come Tuesday, I went for my regular OBGYN screening blood work (unrelated to high-risk doctor appointment) and Tuesday afternoon I got a phone call from the HR Dr setting an appointment for the following morning at 8:30 in the morning. YIKES that was early since it’s all the way in Orlando and I am currently in Deltona (and on top of that, rush hour Orlando is the WORST, and I had to drop Carli off with my Mom). But if I didn’t agree to 8:30 Wednesday, I would have to wait until a week later. So I went ahead and said, “okay” and went to bed early.

I got there around 8:15am, filled out some paperwork and waited until about 9:15 before I finally got called back to get my weight (cries) and blood pressure and ask me a series of questions. I was then asked to go back to the waiting room where I waited for another 45 minutes. Luckily I had Janet Evanovich’s Hot Six with me to keep me company. Thank G-d for books!

Finally around 9:45 I was called back for my ultrasound. I had two technicians, the regular one doing all the work and a student one who was watching and asking questions.  They were very friendly and I enjoyed being able to see my little bug! After the sonogram was finished, my tech asked if it was okay if the student tech played around a little with the machine and practiced. Hmmm.. more opportunities to see bug? Sure why not! I wasn’t going anywhere!

So Tech #1 left and Student Tech was like, “So what should we look for?” and we looked for the spine and profile. It was a lot of fun just watching Bug squirm around on screen. She was rolling and jumping and kicking and waving. It was.. wonderful.  It was still so crazy knowing I have a little baby inside me with a head and arms and legs.. let alone a nose and eyes and a mouth! I was definitely in awe.

The HR Doctor finally comes in just as the Student Tech was finishing up and he also ran an ultrasound on me to double check things. He noticed I had a fibroid mass in my uterus, which I guess.. supposedly is really common. He didn’t seem concerned. At first he thought it was a contraction because I guess contractions show up the same way. But when it didn’t change, he realized it was a fibroid. I am trying not to read too much about fibroids because I don’t want to freak myself out but.. I do know it increases my chance for a c-section by 6x. Not cool. But – hopefully it’ll shrink and go away!

Textbook Girly Nub.

He said fluids look good and the baby looks properly formed (on target) and doesn’t appear to have any down’s flags.  He stated that she was very active – and she really was! She was all over the place.. definitely an acrobat of sorts. It kind of makes me wince wondering just how painful she’ll be kicking me in the future. Carli was so laid back and not much of an acrobat in the womb.. so, if this kid has her Dad’s energy, I am in trouble from 15 weeks on!

Then what he would say next made my eyes bug out, “It’s a girl.” and I joked, “What – are you like… 50% sure?” and we all laughed. I was pretty sure you couldn’t tell a fetus’s gender before 16 weeks as parts were still growing. But I guess you can if you are skilled. The issue comes from thinking that a fetus is a boy based on the fact that a nub is present. But all fetuses have penis-like nubs early on.  But the girl’s nub eventually descends within itself and becomes girl bits. Based on the angle of the nub (he checked from all angles) he said, “I am about 90% sure it’s a girl!” He smiled at me, “But when you come back for your next ultrasound in a few weeks, I will be 99% sure.” I was really happy. We really wanted another little girl!

Quite a few friends are hesitant to believe it – because it’s so early and I get that. But for now, you know, if my fetal diagnostic high-risk specialist doctor tells me something, I am going to judge his word over Dr. Google.

My next appointment is on February 17th so we’ll see for sure then. ;)

Tuna, beneficial in Pregnant & Breastfeeding Women?

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One of the biggest myths we’re faced with today is to avoid seafood, especially tuna. With high-level mercury fishes being correlated to fetal issues (primarily Autism) pregnant women are hesitant to eat tuna at all – which is a big mistake.

While doctors and researchers still recommend an intake of low-mercury fish in pregnancy and breastfeeding, there has been further research to show that there are benefits to eating fish (at least 2 servings per week) as opposed to mothers who do not.

The website healthy tuna documents some of that research. Both in other countries, and in the United States where the fish are farmed and raised differently.

Their findings indicate in a study that pregnant and nursing mothers who ate at least 2 servings of tuna per week scored higher on visual memory and IQ level tests (higher infant cognition) than those who did not. Being pregnant and knowing this – made me want to integrate more fish into my diet. It’s odd because I have been craving fish like nothing else this pregnancy and it tore me apart that I couldn’t fu fill that craving.

Now, I will eat my low-mercury fish options and not feel so guilty about it! The good thing about tuna is that it can be prepped so many different ways. One of my favorite tuna sandwiches involves the following:

My Little Recipe:

- 2 slices of 100% whole weat/whole grain toast.
- 1 tablespoon of low-fat/fat-free mayonaise (or miracle whip!)
- 1 slice of tomato
- 1 slice of red onion
- 1/2 can of tuna, drained of juices.
- Pam Spray
- 1/4 cup shredded lettuce

Directions:

With a pan set on Medium/Hot (usually a 6-7 on my stove) I spray with PAM non-stick, and then sautee the tuna, keeping it as together as I can. I do this until it is a little browned.

While tuna is warming, I toast my two slices of toast (I like things lightly toasted) and then apply 1/2 teaspoon mayo to both sides of the bread. When tuna is finished, I place tuna on one slice of bread and top directly with slice of tomato, red onion and then lettuce. Then, of course, top the whole thing off with the other slice of toasted bread.

Voila. It’s delish!

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Update on the “Bug” #Pregnancy #VBAC #Doula

Bug8w4deditedLast week I went to a new OBGYN in Winter Park, as recommended to me by a friend. As it turns out, it is a small practice as their hours are by appointment only. So the wait was literally, less than 5 minutes. I went in, filled out a few sheets of paperwork and they took me back. No real wait. It was nice.

He wanted to check the status of the subchorionic hematoma/bleeding. The last OBGYN didn’t say anything other than it was “small”. No measurements, although I know they measured it.

When checking, my NEW OBGYN was very happy to say that he saw no such clot anymore, that it had dissolved itself. I was off the floor so happy that it was gone. On top of that, they had dated the baby wrong and I was no longer behind on my date, but right on time with my LMP. I walked in at 7 weeks, 5 days and walked out being 8 weeks, 4 days. I finally felt like I was getting somewhere!

We also sat down and discussed my desire to have a VBAC and he told me quite frankly that WP Hospital does not do VBACS, and as I checked the ICAN list, he was in fact correct. They have a DeFacto Ban, which isn’t a written policy – just kind of an unsaid rule. They will do anything to give you a c-section if you’ve had a previous c-section. Well damnit to hell!

But then he said, “You can just go to a different hospital. I won’t be able to deliver, but it’s possible you may get what you want from a different hospital.” And I knew just the hospital.

Fighting for my VBAC is tough, tough, work. It seems that the only way to get a VBAC without the guilt is hiring a midwife and birthing at home. Well, my home is NOT my sanctuary. It’s rather chaotic and not the environment I imagine birthing a child into. Plus, I know it’s perfectly safe to have a homebirth – but I just don’t feel safe. I haven’t even experienced labor before, let alone have confidence in myself to know what is normal and what is not normal during labor.

I was highly recommended a midwife, who was an EMT for close to 20 years – and of course that would make me feel more comfortable and secure – but, still. I just keep thinking, “If something happened to me and/or the baby because of my stubbornness to have my baby naturally – what will happen to my marriage? Will Forrest ever forgive me if something should happen?” Man pregnancy politics in the US really know how to lay the on the guilt.

I think I would feel most comfortable in a hospital environment but have been told that if I choose to go to a hospital to birth – then I have to be prepared to fight for my rights to deliver a healthy baby the way G-d intended, naturally. I am weak – I am. So my ICAN chapter recommended getting a doula, which costs around $600 and I am not sure that is something we can afford with so many other things that we need. Man, I wish I personally knew of a Doula who was a friend of the family. (But if life were only that simple).

So my current plan is, if my pregnancy is uneventful and healthy and if at the last ultrasound s/he is head down – I will try to labor as much as I can at home before heading to the more baby/VBAC friendly hospital. Who knows? Maybe I am a natural birther and it will be easy for me to labor as much as I can at home before heading to the hospital. Maybe I’ll enter the hospital at 8cm and fully effaced and when they try to tell me that I need a c-section, I can give them a big ol “F-you! Let me have this baby my way.” and push out a baby in 2 pushes an hour later. (Hey, it’s possible!)

If I can accomplish having my VBAC, then by FL Law (as I’ve heard it) I will be able to birth my child at a birthing center my next pregnancy because I’ve already had a successful VBAC. Or maybe I’ll think the whole thing was manageable enough to do at home. (Oh my god, I can’t believe I am discussing the possibility of #3. I need to stop that talk!)

I would love to hear from mothers who have had successful VBACS!

Tired ALL the Time!

catnapI know in part it has to do with just being pregnant – but, my GOD – I am tired ALL the time. I usually nap when Carli does – and sometimes (as Forrest has been home this week) I will sleep until the evening time. Still, though – I manage to go to bed on time just as exhausted as if I hadn’t taken a nap in the first place.

Today we were at the mall – and walking through a department store on the way in to find Santa and I see their display of beds and I instantly wanted to crawl into them and go to sleep. So what if people stared? I didn’t though. I have SOME self-control. But – oh, how I wanted to!

I don’t remember being this tired the first time around. Forrest says the last pregnancy’s first trimester went by a lot slower for him and he said I was a lot worse.. Is there some sort of natural instinct to block out these horrible memories so we’ll have more kids? What kind of dirty trick is that?

I keep telling Forrest, “This is the last pregnancy for me! I don’t want to go through this again.” and he told me to write it down and remind myself because come 2nd Trimester, and when I see Bug for the first time, that feeling and memories of these early days in pregnancies will be long forgotten.

And they probably will.

Mickey’s Very Merry Xmas Party

On the ferry ride over!

On the ferry ride over!

The only thing that I don’t quite understand about Disney’s Christmas Party, is that for something made for children – the hours surely aren’t anything to be recommended. 7pm+? Carli enjoyed all of an hour and a half before she just got way too tired. By 9:30, when the fireworks started – 1.5 hours past her normal bed time, she was very, very cranky.

Plus, it being so dark out – we had no idea where we were going half the time. So we missed out on a lot! Carli didn’t get any pictures with characters and we only went on two rides (It’s a Small World and The Haunted Mansion). Even so, she did have fun. To see her eyes and mouth in wonder and giggles – was worth every minute! I can’t wait to take her back during the day time!

Forrest and I split a giant smoked turkey leg in Frontierland, something I have wanted to do for at LEAST 20 years. I thought it was delicious and juicy and crispy and messy! Forrest insisted Feathers were smoked in, but I never saw one. Carli also enjoyed the turkey leg, which was surprising since she is not a huge meat enthusiast.

On another positive note – I felt pretty good through out the entire thing. Maybe the key to morning sickness is to just keep moving. The longer you sit stagnant and think about how awful you feel, the worse it is! So this makes me think that today, we are going to go get her pictures taken with Santa. (Or maybe it’s the Zofran speaking).

Can you believe we forgot to buy one?

Can you believe we forgot to buy one?

Carli & her Daddy (With Cinderellas Castle behind them!)

Carli & her Daddy (With Cinderella's Castle behind them!)

Seeing even the moments of pure wonder as Carli saw the lights and characters – it just makes me all the more excited to take her in the day time. Maybe in February for my birthday, we’ll go again. I’ll be in the 2nd trimester and more than likely feeling pretty great and I can get in Free – and Carli is under 2, so she can get in free, too!

Next time I’ll bring my Canon Rebel XTi and not my pocket camera so I can get some really good photos!