Nope, not going to be ashamed.
Not of breastfeeding my 2 year old, at least. I mean, why should I?
Time Magazine has posted a picture of a supermodel looking woman breastfeeding her 3 year old. While I am a bit turned off by the fact that Time did this for shock value and sales, I am more turned off by the comments on the site. Are people really that clueless?
God gave me these breasts for a purpose. When I had my children, my body made exactly what they needed. It is what they are intended for, what they were made for, and with no other true purpose. They were not designed to be showcased on a magazine, or gawked at on tv.
They were made for this. For my children.
It’s not gross or “nasty” and I definitely should not be ashamed of myself. In fact, I feel empowered. I am doing this!
For many months Kate grew and thrived on my breast alone. Prior to the breast, she spent 9 months developing within my body. My body was the source of growth, development, and comfort. And even so, after she was born, my role was not over. My body’s design was meant to continue helping my daughter thrive and grow and it was my job, as a mother, to afford her that right. It didn’t matter how often I had to nurse, or that it hurt in the beginning, or the countless times I’ve had clogged ducts. What mattered was her and the importance my milk was and is for her.
What I do find “gross” and “nasty” is society’s (mainly America) view on breastfeeding and their lack of understanding of the nutritional and emotional aspects of nursing your baby, rather than formula feeding them. But the disadvantages of formula feeding is the least of my concerns. I do, though, feel the need to educate on the matter of extended breastfeeding.
For information on extended breastfeeding please check out:
- La Leche League (1) and Extended Breastfeeding and the Law (2)
- Dr Sears (yes, he really knows his stuff.)
I want Mother’s to feel empowered. Feel empowered by your choices, knowing that you have all the facts (and that you truly understand them), and you are making the best choice for your baby (first and foremost), and then for you and your family.
Breastfeeding is recommended for at least 1 year, and longer if needed. There is no time limit put on breastfeeding, except by the ignorant and what is the benefit of letting ignorance rule our choices?
In many other countries extended breastfeeding is incredibly common. While it is true that as a first world country we have access to clean water, but why continue on past 1 year supplementing with artificial milk or cow’s breast milk. Not only are you paying for something that is artificial but drinking breastmilk from a cow is, instead, recommended? What could be more perfect than the milk from a mother’s breast, that was made for a human child?
Look at the numbers in the table that UNICEF had supplied for us. It’s not abnormal .. at all. Why should it be treated as such?
Yesterday I posted the above photo and while many liked, commented, and supported — there was one who wore her ignorance on her sleeve and posted an incredibly nasty comment. (I’ll let you read for yourself, but you may want to expand the image.)
Soon after Rosa (who is pregnant and has two other children) posted this, she unfriended me and blocked me (as show on the image.) Did not even give me the time to respond (which to me is a form of cowardliness.) No matter how many times I told her my child eats, she insisted I was starving her.
But we know Kate’s food issues, and her diet is limited to some fruits (in various forms), Corn Chex, Kix, and breastmilk. If you look at the picture above, you can see that she clearly is not starving. While her diet is different, so is she, and my breastmilk is helping to provide safe proteins and fats for her until she outgrows her food protein intolerances.
Rosa knew that and still she felt the need to make it look as if I was a horrible mother for still breastfeeding my child (who does have special food needs). I can’t just get over how another mother is that clueless about the natural way to feed a young child.
But, I am not going to let her get to me. She didn’t get to me. I posted the picture on Facebook, and I am posting this picture on my blog because I am an extended breastfeeder. I know the benefits and I listen to my child’s physical and emotional needs. So what? I will not be bullied into being ashamed. No nursing mother should.
“Rejoice with Jerusalem, and be glad for her, all you who love her; rejoice with her in joy, all you who mourn over her; that you may nurse and be satisfied from her consoling breast; that you may drink deeply with delight from her glorious abundance.” For thus says the Lord: “Behold, I will extend peace to her like a river, and the glory of the nations like an overflowing stream; and you shall nurse, you shall be carried upon her hip, and bounced upon her knees. As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you; you shall be comforted in Jerusalem..